So here we are at week two of the Honor Your Husband challenge and I'm two days late. Sorry about that. We just got back from our trip to Salt Lake City last night, so I'm behind on everything.
As for my goals from last week, to be honest I haven't been as conscious about my efforts/successes/failers this week as I would have liked to have been. I'll blame it on the chaos of planning and going on our trip, but that feels like a lame excuse. Actually, a road trip is just the formula to bring out some of the struggles I mentioned last week. But here's what I can remember:
Goal #1: Don't use sarcasm!
I feel like I did okay with this, meaning there is no specific episode of sarcasm I can remember, but I want to be more consious of it this week, so I'm keeping this goal.
Goal #2: Suggest a free time activity for him to do and provide the opportunity for him to do it.
I actually do recall a specific time I did this! This weekend, I was needing Travis to be on duty with the girls several times while I went to pre-wedding events, like the bachelorette party and girl's breakfast. Needless to say, he was feeling a bit jipped out of "vacation time". So on Monday, the day of my friend's wedding, I suggested that he go meet up with some of his paragliding or school friends for the afternoon until the wedding. He took me up on it and came back obviously refreshed. I think I'll keep this on my goals list this week too however, because I think it really feeds his spirit and makes him feel honored.
Goal #3: Say good things about him, both when others are around and in private
I remember a specific time this weekend when I told him what a good daddy he is when we were at the pool on Sunday. He had both girls in their floaty toys, swishing them through the water, fixing hats, calming fears, just being a wonderful dad. I commented alowd what a great dad he is and I could see him beeming. And you know what, I'm going to keep this goal as well, because I know it speaks love and honor to Travis and that I need to do it more, and genuinely of course.
I'll try to get my update up on Monday next week, sorry about the delay. This accountability is wonderful!
Sarah
As for my goals from last week, to be honest I haven't been as conscious about my efforts/successes/failers this week as I would have liked to have been. I'll blame it on the chaos of planning and going on our trip, but that feels like a lame excuse. Actually, a road trip is just the formula to bring out some of the struggles I mentioned last week. But here's what I can remember:
Goal #1: Don't use sarcasm!
I feel like I did okay with this, meaning there is no specific episode of sarcasm I can remember, but I want to be more consious of it this week, so I'm keeping this goal.
Goal #2: Suggest a free time activity for him to do and provide the opportunity for him to do it.
I actually do recall a specific time I did this! This weekend, I was needing Travis to be on duty with the girls several times while I went to pre-wedding events, like the bachelorette party and girl's breakfast. Needless to say, he was feeling a bit jipped out of "vacation time". So on Monday, the day of my friend's wedding, I suggested that he go meet up with some of his paragliding or school friends for the afternoon until the wedding. He took me up on it and came back obviously refreshed. I think I'll keep this on my goals list this week too however, because I think it really feeds his spirit and makes him feel honored.
Goal #3: Say good things about him, both when others are around and in private
I remember a specific time this weekend when I told him what a good daddy he is when we were at the pool on Sunday. He had both girls in their floaty toys, swishing them through the water, fixing hats, calming fears, just being a wonderful dad. I commented alowd what a great dad he is and I could see him beeming. And you know what, I'm going to keep this goal as well, because I know it speaks love and honor to Travis and that I need to do it more, and genuinely of course.
I'll try to get my update up on Monday next week, sorry about the delay. This accountability is wonderful!
Sarah
5 comments:
Great goals, Sarah! I understand about not being to make a concientious effort on these goals, and making a bigger effort this week. =)
I am SO glad you're back!!
Again, I mirror your goals in my heart - always reaching to be a channel of blessing for my husband. I know you desire the same for yours!
And, if you don't mind my asking, what is in SLC? ;) We're moving there in August - just wondering!
I'm just a lurker, but I wanted to comment on your #2. I've realized with my marriage, that my husband "refuels" with spending time with his friends. Be it camping, out on the gun range, or just going to a "guy" movie with some pals. This is NOT how I refuel, thus never understood the need for his guy time. So it's been fun for me to realize the blessing that comes out of his time - him getting recharged and refocused. In other words...more willing and ABLE to refuel me with quality time and attention.
I can't help but wonder, how many of us wives don't realize how many men need this male bonding time and inadvertently prevent them that blessing? What kinds of blessings are we keeping from him AND ourselves, thus ultimately the marriage and family?
Just thinking out loud as I type...
Sarah,
Check out my blog. There is something there for you! =)
Love you!
You'll get back in the swing of things now that you're back. I find that I'm more conscious of things now than I was the first week!
Blessings!
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